Cov kws npliag siab yeej paub tseeb tias hauv cov ncauj lus ntawm kev kawm kev sib deev ntawm cov menyuam yaus tsis tuaj yeem hais tias: "Qhov no yog lawm, thiab yog li tsis yog." Txhua tsev neeg muaj nws tus kheej kev sib deev, nws tus kheej kab lis kev cai, tsim qauv. Koj tsuas yog yuav tsum paub tias muaj ib txoj hauv kev thiaj li yuav tsim tsa ntawm nws.
Ib qho ntawm thawj cov lus nug "txog qhov no" feem ntau suab: "Kuv tuaj qhov twg tuaj?" Nws muaj ob peb txoj cai los ua raws thaum sib txuas lus nrog koj tus menyuam ntawm cov ncauj lus no:
1. Nco ntsoov teb qhov tseeb xwb. Tsis muaj storks, tsis muaj zaub qhwv, thiab tsis muaj khw rau cov menyuam yaus hauv khw. Tsis muaj ib lub hnub nyoog li no uas "ntxov" rau tus menyuam paub qhov tseeb.
2. Qhov tseeb yuav tsum tsim nyog rau tus menyuam hnub nyoog. Ib tus menyuam muaj peb xyoos tsis tas yuav tsum paub tias leej niam muaj ov ov thiab txiv muaj phev.
3. Peb teb rau nqe lus nug uas peb tau txais. Tsis muaj kev xav tau, tau hnov “Kuv los qhov twg los?”, Qhia rau tus menyuam tag nrho txog lub neej kev sib deev. Suffice nws hais tej yam xws li: “Koj niam yug koj. Thaum koj tseem me heev, koj nyob hauv koj niam lub plab, thiab thaum ntawd, thaum koj loj tuaj, koj niam mus rau tom tsev kho mob tshwj xeeb thiab yug koj tus kheej."
Qhov tseem ceeb uas tus me nyuam yuav tsum coj tawm ntawm txhua qhov kev sib tham yog kev ntseeg tias nws muaj kev nyab xeeb los sib tham txog nws, koj ib txwm npaj siab yuav teb thiab koj tuaj yeem txav mus nyob nrog cov lus nug tau ntau dua. Cia koj tus menyuam lub hlwb ua haujlwm thiab ua haujlwm rau cov lus nug hauv qab no ntawm nws tus kheej.
Tsis ntev los sis tom qab, tus me nyuam yuav los nug: "Kuv raug li cas nyob hauv kuv niam lub plab?" Koj tuaj yeem teb nws: “Rau tus menyuam yuav tsum tsim, leej niam thiab leej txiv yog xav tau. Niam thiab Txiv muaj cov hlwb zoo li no, noob, thiab thaum leej niam lub tawb nkag mus nrog tus txiv tsev nyob, koj tshwm sim. " Thiab tsuas yog lo lus nug "Daddy's cell tau li cas rau niam?" ua rau koj tham txog kev sib deev.
Cov menyuam preschool tsis tas yuav muaj cov ntsiab lus tsis tsim nyog nyob rau kis no. Koj muaj peev xwm hais tias, “Niam thiab txiv hlub sib hlub heev thiab xav yug me tub lossis tus ntxhais. Txog qhov no, cov neeg laus ua rau kev hlub. Qhov no txhais tau tias lawv tuaj yeem hnia thiab puag nrawm, thiab tus txiv neej ntawm qhov chaw mos (nws yog tus hu ua "chaw mos") nkag mus rau hauv lub qhov tshwj xeeb no rau poj niam (nws hu ua "chaw mos"), thiab tom qab ntawd lub hlwb ntawm lub neej tom ntej niam thiab txiv muaj kev cob cog rua”.
Nws tsis tseem ceeb li qhov koj hu ua tus txheej txheem no - "kev hlub", "nrog txiv neej pw" lossis "ua phooj ywg." Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas tus menyuam hnov tias nws xav tau thiab hlub, nws niam nws txiv yeej xav kom nws yug los, thiab tseem ceeb! - tsuas yog cov laus thiaj tuaj yeem ua kev hlub thiab muaj menyuam yaus.
Puas yog koj xav tau tiag tiag hu "spade spade"? Western cov kws tshaj lij ntawm kev kawm txog kev sib deev feem ntau sib cav hais tias txawm tias tus menyuam yaus me yuav tsum paub qhov tseeb lub npe ntawm lub cev, suav nrog tus qau. Ntawm ib sab, qhov no yog qhov tseeb - los ntawm zam kev hais euphemisms, peb ua cov ncauj lus ntawm kev sib daj sib deev tsawg, tsawg kawg ntawm qhov ntsuas ntawm ib tsev neeg. Nws tseem ceeb kom nco ntsoov tias yog me nyuam yaus tau ntsib kev raug quab yuam deev, nws yuav tsum muaj cov lus los piav qhia txog dab tsi tshwm sim rau nws thiab yws rau cov neeg laus uas nws ntseeg siab. Ntawm qhov tod tes, kev cog lus muaj peev xwm ua tau. Ib qho yooj yim thiab muaj txiaj ntsig euphemism yog "qhov ua tau zoo ntawm lub cev." Nco ntsoov koj tus menyuam txog kev sib raug zoo yuav tsis yog kev coj noj coj ua.
Niaj hnub no muaj ntau phau ntawv - nrog rau cov duab zoo nkauj, nrog cov zajlus sau thiab siv tau nthuav dav ntawm cov khoom ntawm cov ncauj lus no. Lub neej nyob ib ncig ntawm koj tseem muab ntau cov laj thawj rau kev sib tham - piv txwv, yog tias koj muaj ib tus hluas nkauj lossis tus txheeb ze. Generalize yog tias koj txaj muag los tham txog koj tus kheej: "Txhua tus poj niam / txiv neej tau npaj rau hauv txoj kev ntawd …".
Tshaj tawm thaj tsam - qhov no yuav qhia tus me nyuam kom hwm lawv thiab tom qab ntawd - kom pom lawv tus kheej. Piav qhia rau koj tus menyuam tias kev tshwj xeeb yog dabtsi thiab tseem ceeb. Cov neeg tsis paub yuav tsum tsis pom lossis kov lawv. Tsuas yog niam / txiv, thaum nws tau pab ntxuav, lossis kws kho mob, yog tias niam txiv tso cai.
Kev raug quab yuam deev thiab kev nyab xeeb yog lub ncauj lus uas tus menyuam yuav tsis xav txog nws tus kheej. Ib tug menyuam yaus nyob hauv tsev neeg vam meej tsuas yog tsis xav txog tej yam zoo li no. Thiab menyuam yaus uas muaj kev pheej hmoo lossis tus neeg raug tsim txom los ntawm kev ua phem feem ntau tsis tham txog nws. Yog li ntawd, nws yog qhov teeb meem ntawm kev nyab xeeb thiab kev sib raug zoo - ib txwm yuav tsum ua txhaum los ntawm cov neeg laus. Los ntawm hnub nyoog li cas? Txij li thaum tus me nyuam tuaj yeem nyob ib leeg nrog lwm tus dua li koj. Niam mus ua haujlwm thiab ntiav ib tus niam yau. Tus menyuam tau mus kawm hauv kindergarten, mus rau seem, nyob nrog cov phooj ywg hauv tsev neeg lossis mus pw tom hav zoov.
