Yog tias tus neeg tsis txaus siab rau qee yam hauv tus cwj pwm ntawm lwm tus neeg, nws pib thuam nws. Nws yog qhov tsis zoo uas ua qhov no tom qab koj nraub qaum, yog li koj yuav tsum tau hais tawm nws tus kheej. Thiab qhov no feem ntau ua rau kev chim siab thiab tsis nkag siab. Txhawm rau txhawm rau kho qhov kev tawm tsam, nws yog qhov yuav tsum tau kawm paub hais lus meej txog cov lus tsis txaus siab.
Cov Lus Qhia
Kauj ruam 1
Cov lus cem thuam yuav tsim nyog rau txhua qhov teeb meem: hauv tsev, tom haujlwm, ntawm kev sib txuas lus nrog menyuam yaus thiab niam txiv. Nws tsuas yog ib qho tseem ceeb uas yuav tsum hais lus kom txias, tsis muaj tus cwj pwm tsis txaus ntseeg. Ua ntej koj hais ib yam dab tsi, xav txog tias vim li cas koj thiaj yuav ua nws? Koj puas xav tau hloov qee yam lossis tsuas yog ua kom poob ntsej muag ntawm interlocutor? Hauv thawj kis, koj tuaj yeem pib sib tham, tab sis zaum ob, kev sib tham kom raug thiab muaj txiaj ntsig tseem yuav tsis ua haujlwm.
Kauj ruam 2
Xav tias, qhov kev thuam no puas tsim nyog tam sim no? Dab tsi tuaj yeem hloov tau? Piv txwv li, koj mus ntsib koj tus txij nkawm. Thiab koj ntsib ua ntej qhov kev tshwm sim ib qho twg ntawm txoj kev los yog twb nyob ntawm qhov chaw pib ntawm qhov chaw ua koob tsheej. Thiab txij ntawm no, koj yuav pom tias tus khub hnav ris tsho tsis raws cai. Lub sijhawm ntawd, koj tuaj yeem qhia koj lub tswvyim, tab sis nws yuav tsis pab, nws yuav tsis tuaj yeem kho nws. Thiab raws li qhov txiaj ntsig ntawm koj cov lus, lub siab ntawm ob qho tib si yuav raug puas. Muaj qee zaum nws yuav tsim nyog ntsiag to. Tsuas tshuaj xyuas, koj cov lus puas pab tau, lawv yuav ua li cas to taub?
Kauj ruam 3
Xaiv qhov chaw zoo rau txoj kev sib tham, koj tsis tas yuav qhia qee yam ua ntej pawg neeg. Yog tias koj nyob tom haujlwm, hu tus neeg ntawd mus rau koj qhov chaw lossis xaiv ib lub sijhawm thaum tsis muaj ib tus nyob ze. Kev tshaj tawm pej xeem tuaj yeem tsim cov txiaj ntsig, tab sis nws kuj tseem tuaj yeem ua rau rov qab tsis zoo. Ib qho kev sib tham kaw yuav ua rau ib tus neeg txuag ntsej muag, kho qhov lawv tau ua tsis zoo, thiab tseem tuaj yeem tuav kev hwm ntawm cov neeg ua haujlwm no hauv koj tus neeg. Txawm hais tias muaj tus poj niam, koj yuav tsum tsis txhob sib cav nyob ntawm cov me nyuam, yog li ntawd kom tsis txhob ua xyem xyav hauv cov me nyuam txog txoj cai ntawm leej niam.
Kauj ruam 4
Nws yog qhov zoo dua los pib kev sib tham nrog qhuas. Nrhiav tej yam ua tau zoo kawg nkaus, hais tau nws, ua rau nws paub meej tias koj raug pov tseg zoo rau tus interlocutor. Thiab tsuas yog tom qab ntawd qhia txog qhov shortcomings. Txoj kev no ua rau nws nkag siab zoo cov ntaub ntawv. Yog tias koj pib nrog shortcomings, tus neeg yuav kaw, thiab ntau yam tsuas yuav tsis hnov. Ua qhov yog thiab hais meej meej tias kev thuam yog lub sijhawm rau txoj kev loj hlob, tsis yog sim ua kom tiav tsis ua tiav.
Kauj ruam 5
Tsis txhob liam ib tus neeg, tsis txhob ua neeg ntiag tug. Tham txog qhov koj tau ua, hais txog qhov zoo los sis phem hauv koj cov yeeb yam. Tus neeg nws tus kheej tshwj xeeb, thiab nws yog qhov tsim nyog los cais cov cwm pwm thiab kev ua si. Yog li ntawd, thaum lub sij hawm kev thuam, tsis muaj chaw rau kev thuam, txawm tias veiled sawv daws. Thaum tham txog qhov yuam kev, nws tsis yog qhov tseem ceeb los taw qhia lawv xwb, tab sis kuj tseem yuav hais kom peb nrhiav kev daws teeb meem no ua ke. Nws yog ib qho tsim nyog yuav tsum tsis yog tsuas yog xaj yuav ua li cas, tab sis yuav tsum xav ua ke txog kev daws qhov zoo. Qhov no yuav ua rau kom muaj txiaj ntsig zoo thiab ua kom kev sib txuas lus ua haujlwm zoo dua.
Kauj Ruam 6
Nco ntsoov qhuas tus neeg tom qab lawv hloov txoj haujlwm lossis lawv tus cwj pwm. Siv sijhawm los qhia nws tias nws tau ua qhov yog. Qhov no yuav yooj yim tawm lub tswv yim ntawm kev sib tham dhau los, ua kev sib txuas lus yooj yim dua thiab yooj yim rau txhua tus. Yog tias koj muaj sijhawm los thuam thiab thuam, ces koj yuav tsis tuaj yeem tau txais ib txoj haujlwm zoo ib yam, thiab koj yuav qhia nws qhov tseem ceeb rau koj lossis pab pawg.
