Cov poj niam qee zaum xav paub tias lawv nyiam lossis siv. Txoj kev yooj yim tshaj plaws rau kev tshawb pom yog los ntawm kev xav, los ntawm kev hnov sab hauv. Tab sis yog tias qhov zoo nkauj tsis ua haujlwm, tom qab ntawd muaj cov cim qhia uas hais txog kev xav ua siab ntev.
Cov Lus Qhia
Kauj ruam 1
Tus txiv neej yuav saib xyuas tus ntxhais tsuas yog hauv ob kis, thaum nws hlub los yog thaum nws xav ua tiav ib yam dab tsi. Txij li thaum koj tau dhau los hlub, nws tsis tau sim kom tau txais kev sib raug zoo los ntawm koj, qhov no yog twb muaj. Thiab yog tias nws tseem pheej ua tus cwj pwm mloog, yog tias nws hais tias qhuas, feem ntau tau txais kev zoo siab, hnia, qhuas koj, ces nws tsis muaj qhov tsis txaus siab. Nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom pom tias nws puas ua nws ua kev cai lossis nrog kev xav, seb nws tus kheej tau txais los ntawm nws? Yog tias tag nrho nws cov lus yog tib yam thiab tus qauv, yog tias nws tsis tso nws lub siab rau lawv, qhov no pom tau.
Kauj ruam 2
Tus txiv neej hlub tsis cem nws tus poj niam. Nws paub cai thiab paub cai. Nyob rau tib lub sijhawm, tsis muaj kev sarcasm hauv nws lub suab, nws tsis ua kom mob siab rau tus poj niam khav theeb. Ntawm chav kawm, kev lom zem tuaj yeem tuaj yeem, tab sis tsis yog kev phem, tab sis kev ua siab zoo thiab kev hlub. Yog tias nws tuaj yeem hais cov lus tsis zoo, yog tias qee zaum nws rhuav tshem, cia nws tus kheej qias neeg cov lus rau koj, ces yuav tsum nug cov lus nug.
Kauj ruam 3
Tus txiv neej sim ua kom haum nws tus kheej, txawm ua li cas los xij. Qhov no tuaj yeem qhia hauv kev maj mam zaws, kas fes hauv txaj, khoom plig qab zib, lossis daws qee qhov teeb meem. Yog tias nws sim ua txhua yam los ua kom koj lub siab, ces qhov no yog qhov tiag. Koj tuaj yeem tshawb xyuas yooj yim, thov nws daws qee yam ntawm koj qhov teeb meem, thiab pom nws qhov kev ua tshuaj tiv thaiv. Tus hlub yuav sim nws qhov zoo tshaj plaws los cawm nws tus pojniam. Tus txiv neej tsis nco qab yuav tuaj yeem tsis quav ntsej lossis tseem tsis nco qab txog yam yuav tsum tau ua.
Kauj ruam 4
Kev coj cwj pwm hauv txaj hais ntau yam txog txoj kev xav. Yog tias nws txaus siab tsuas yog nws lub siab nyiam, yog tias nws tsis nco qab txog kev lom zem ntawm poj niam, ces tus cwj pwm txawv tsis heev. Feem ntau, cov neeg hlub sim muab kev lom zem, thiab tsuas yog li ntawd nco ntsoov rau lawv tus kheej. Yog tias nws lub hom phiaj yog poj niam txiv neej, ces nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau nws kom tau ntau li ntau tau, thiab qhov no yog qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws. Thiab yog tias koj tsis kam hlub, nws puas yuav nrog koj tham? Puas yog tsuas yog koj lub xub ntiag uas ua rau nws zoo siab, lossis yog kev sib daj sib dee? Tus hlub npaj txhij rau zaum ntawm nws thiab tos xwb.
Kauj ruam 5
Nagging tseem yog lub cim uas tus txiv neej tsis hlub. Yog tias nws meem txom ntawm cov lus, kev ua, yog tias nws pheej thuam koj thiab xav tau qee yam, nws tsim nyog ua tibzoo saib. Tus txiv neej uas muaj kev hlub, yog tias nws sim hloov qee yam, pub txhua yam mos, yam tsis muaj kev xav. Yog tias muaj kev quab yuam, yog tias lub suab nce, ces cov kev xav tsis tshwm sim lossis tau dhau los. Tau kawg, ib qho tawg tshiab tseem tsis yog qhov taw qhia, vim tias kev qaug zog yuav yog tus txhaum, tab sis kev tas mus li hauv qhov tsis zoo tsis tuaj yeem yog lub cim ntawm kev xav zoo.
